Recent developments in the COVID-19 pandemic have motivated me to transition to an entirely virtual practice. I believe firmly that social distancing is the safest and most ethical way to …
Social Media and Suicide Among Teens
Digital media, including social media, became a centerpiece of day to day life at a seemingly exponential rate. Before I graduated high school in 2006, I remember many evenings spent …
Couples Therapy Palo Alto: Relationships in the Tech World.
Being a Marriage and Family Therapist in the Bay Area specializing in Couples Therapy Palo Alto, means I have the privilege to meet clients from very diverse backgrounds. One of …
Family Stress Test
Family Stress Test Stress is a natural and normal “by-product” of every family’s life. In fact, family stress can bring out the best of us: as we stretch to meet …
Disorganized Attachment
Mary Ainsworth’s work on attachment identified three attachment categories (secure, insecure avoidant, and insecure ambivalent/resistant). The development of the disorganized/disoriented classification evolved as a part of Mary Main’s doctoral research …
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is the most widely used evidence-based treatment for depression and anxiety. In CBT, the focus is on thoughts, and how they directly affect emotions, and behaviors. …
Are You Financially Avoidant?
You come home and see the pile of unopened bills and bank statements, but instead of opening them, you move onto something else. Maybe you come up with a justification …
Approaches to Couples Therapy
Relationships are challenging. You have two individual people with different wants, needs, patterns of behavior, styles of communicating, and approaches to conflict. Although you may love one another, you inevitably …
Counseling Hoboken: Not So Blissful Side of New Motherhood
Society’s perspective of the birth of a baby- consists of pure joy and bliss from the moment of delivery….but is this reality??? Although the birth of a child could be …
Practical Advice For Stressed-Out Cynics
Imagine having one of the worst days of your professional life play out in front of 5 million people. ABC News anchor Dan Harris doesn’t have to. In 2004, he …
Emotional experience is much richer than we thought
In science, nothing can be taken for granted; even the most seemingly settled notion is a candidate for further testing and exploration. That’s part of what makes our work at …
Nice Brains Finish Last
We all like to think that being kind, responsible, and fair will lead to a happy life. But what if we’re wrong? What if nice guys really do finish last? …
Trying the Feldenkrais Method for Chronic Pain
After two hourlong sessions focused first on body awareness and then on movement retraining at the Feldenkrais Institute of New York, I understood what it meant to experience an incredible …
Nature, Nurture, And Our Evolving Debates About Gender
When a baby is born, one of the first questions people ask the parents is this: “What is it?” “Gender is unquestionably the most salient feature of a person’s identity,” …
Coping when you’re angry at those who were there to protect you
We’re trained to be beholden to the people who bring us into the world, even if they destroy us. Society holds more negative views of those who abandon their families …
The Anatomy of Hurt
My patient’s cry is piercing the room as she tells me about her lover. They have been together for six years. He repeatedly professes his love for her, and declares …
Blue Jasmine, the Samson Complex, and the Trauma of Knowing
From the first bite of the apple in the Garden of Eden to the one Steve Jobs fashioned into his company symbol, the world has evolved on the nourishment of …